“Mom,” he paused, “You know what? You are the most pretty and powerful mom in the whole wide world.” His sweet, heart-felt words came out of the clear blue, yet breathed life into my weary soul that day. I certainly wasn’t “feeling” very pretty. Hair pulled back, no make up, weary eyes from lack of sleep and in need of another cup of coffee, I felt immensely drained…tired. And, as far as powerful – I struggled with deep feelings of failure in even keeping up with life. Laundry had no end. Too much to do with too little hours in the day. I battled to keep it all afloat but felt like I was in sinking sand.
I knew the truth. I knew that reality said I certainly was NOT “the most pretty or powerful mom in the whole wide world.” But to him, I was. And that’s all that really mattered. The reality that spoke hope into my very being. That made me lift my head. That brought a surge of renewal to my battle with defeat. “Maybe I am making a difference,” I whispered to my soul, “maybe I am leaving a positive and lasting impression on their young lives.”
His words reminded me that God had a plan in bringing our family together. I was destined to be their mom. Dawson’s mom. Noah’s mom. Gracie’s mom. No one else could be their mom like I could - however imperfect and flawed that might be - He was the One who brought it all together with incredible timing and flawless design. His plans indeed are perfect. There is truly nothing that brings me greater joy – than to be their mom. “Just a mom.” I hear that phrase sometimes and I wonder where it came from. What do you mean “just” a mom? What better, more powerful, more influential job in the whole wide world could one ever possess than being called “Mom”?
“Mom.” I hear it all through the day in different tones and styles. Sometimes in a whisper or spoken gently, quietly, sometimes in a conversation, sometimes yelled out when help is needed, sometimes desperate, sometimes giggled, sometimes with tears, sometimes with sheer excitement waiting to unfold some spectacular news, and sometimes even spoken with the finest “whine” – but always the same wonderful word. “Mom.” Yes, I am “Mom.”
I was reminded that day…
It doesn’t matter to them that I’m not the best chef. They like my all too frequent chicken dishes and my mac and cheese. One of them even said to me the other day, “Mom, you make the best peanut butter and jelly sandwiches ever!” So there. That sealed it. I am a good “chef” to them.
It doesn’t matter that our house is not always the cleanest or the most tidy. We LIVE here. And I remind myself, there’s always time for the clean house later in life, when the rooms are empty, and the sound is too quiet.
It doesn’t matter if their rooms don’t look like a page straight out of a magazine. It is our space in this world, occupied by just “us” – family, and that’s what brings the most JOY.
It doesn’t matter if I’m not wearing the latest styles or trends. Or that I’m not the most talented mom in the world. They still call me “mom.” Their love is forever and sees past the pressure we put on ourselves to stay up with what everyone else is doing.
Dear sweet moms who feel like you’re not good enough…who are struggling to keep it all together…stop comparing yourselves. Your children want you. Only you. Not the mom in the magazine. Not the mom on Pinterest. Not the mom on the blog. Not the mom on TV. Not the mom in the office. Not a stressed out mom that doesn’t feel like she has enough time to get it all done. Not a discouraged mom who is desperately trying to be more like someone else. They want simple, wonderful, powerful, pretty – YOU.
You, and only you, are the best mom for your child. You have the power to make a difference in the world through the lives of these young children you raise. You have the influence to remind them daily of who they are – of “whose” they are. You have the ability to unleash mighty warriors in future years - those destined to be a strong and positive presence in a dark culture. Your children need you. They need time with you. God arranged it perfectly that way. You are uniquely created to live the life that only you have the power to live. You are enough. You are more than enough – through the greatness of our Savior.
Stop the negative self talk that drives you to compare yourself with others. Be free to be yourself. Remind yourself today of how God sees you, of how much your children need you. Look in the mirror and say it out loud. “I am pretty. I am powerful. I am the best mom in the world - for my kids.”
You are powerful in the life of your child. You matter. Don’t ever forget. You are blessed to be “Mom.”
“Her children and her husband stand up and bless her…” Proverbs 31:28